Morning!
Today's plans are:
B: Fruit and yogurt
SW: free
L: frittata and salad, apple
Great for using up odds and ends!
SW: one healthy extra A for 30g grated cheese
D: chicken, bacon and vegetable pasta, yogurt and fruit
This is from the freezer and I will have a bit of grated cheese on it.
SW: the pasta is free, the cheese is the other healthy extra A and it's one syn for the yogurt
Tonight is weigh in and, after not being able to go last week, I know I've gained so am not looking forward to it one bit. The damage was done the weekend before last at Dad's and I've lost some but not enough to show a loss or even a maintain.
Despite all the planning, etc, I am struggling, By now I should be at target and I'm still a stone away from it so it's a bit demoralising (sorry). I don't know how to control myself with all that food around and without that, I'm a bit stuck. Not going to Dad's is absolutely not an option - I'm elsewhere this weekend and feeling so guilty about it, you wouldn't believe it!
The only thing I can think of is to keep a diary as well as the planning - keep it with me so that anything that I eat, food and drink, gets written down. A bit of a drag really but it might help - having to write it down might make me think twice.
Any other ideas, please. I feel a bit desperate.
(and sorry for the whine)
Morning Joy. You're not whining (I think I'm an expert on that!), you're anxious and in a quandary. When I did SW years and years ago (back in the days of Red and Green days), although I lost a lot of weight I just couldn't seem to get to target, that last stone seemed totally unattainable. A wise friend said it could be 2 things....either there was something on my mind, consciously or not, that I was worrying about and it was stopping me focusing, or the target weight was unrealistic. Which is what it turned out to be, despite the 'charts' saying I should be that weight - it was just too low for my body shape and bone density and I was already starting to look skinny (hard to believe I know!). So could it be either of those things for you - something on your mind or too low a target? xx
ReplyDeleteI wish I was beginning to look skinny but the fact is I still have quite a bit of podge around my middle (I dress to hide it!) and that's the least healthy place to have it, of course, so, for health's sake, I should aim to lose some more.
DeleteSomething on my mind? Well, I suppose we all do but yes, I worry a lot about Dad. Maybe that's why the problems are centred around my visits there? I have always been a comfort eater; it's my biggest remaining problem.
I will ponder on that, thank you.
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Could you have a serious talk with your Dad and really show him how much it's affecting you and try to get him onside? Perhaps you could ask him not to buy or to hide away anything you don't want to eat when you go stay? Most of us like to cook or buy food treats for our loved ones (I know I do), it's our way of showing we love them. If he still feels he wants to treat you, could you perhaps give him a list of things, sort of 'treat' things, that you'd feel happy to have? Feel free to ignore me Joy, and sorry if I'm overstepping the mark, I'm just trying to think of ways to help. xx
DeleteI know you are and I did think of that but, to be honest, there's so much and it would inconvenience him so severely, even if he could find hiding places for it all, that I don't feel I can. It's not specific 'treats' it's stuff he keeps in - crackers, crisps, biscuits, cake, chocolate, wine . . . all that sort of stuff. Stuff I refuse to buy at home. He also has fruit although not so much veg but I get some while I'm there. It is totally me reverting to old habits again and some of it is likely to be comfort and some lack of will power.
DeleteNo way are you overstepping, SOoze, I really appreciate that people are thinking about it and helping. Thanks so much. I hope I'm not coming over as negative.
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I totally agree with Sooze but I did read somewhere that sometimes we think we are hungry when in actual fact we are thirsty. Do you have a bottle that you can fill with water? Keep it by your side and if your mind turns to food just have a couple of swigs of water. And if you re at a bit of a loose end, try doing a jigsaw. That way you won't need to think about food.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure it's that as I do drink loads of water and always have a filled glass somewhere around.
DeleteJigsaws are a good idea, especially at Dad's which is where the main problems are. Thanks.
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Morning Joy. If you can't let it out on here, it's your blog and it's a great one. Do you look at Lifeline on Line, may be some inspiration to help you on there. When you're at Dad's if you're feeling tempted could you keep some jars of pickles to munch? I love pickled beetroot, gherkins, pickled onions and a bowlful of those almost completely kills any taste temptation for other more naughty nibbles.
ReplyDeleteWe talked at group last night for a lady who is stuck and doesn't know what to do. She's going to try changing her breakfasts. I love porridge with berries on and cinnamon and it seems to help. You might not like this one but maybe cut the second hea cheese out some days? I know that's a bit of an ouch! Does your consultant talk about the bunch of flowers? I'm thinking of outside of visits to Dad's. If one flower died, i.e. one bad day, you wouldn't throw the whole bunch out. And, you will get back on track because you want it, it's just really hard isn't it when you've slipped backwards. God luck Joy xx
I use lifeline online a lot and do find it helpful but it doesn't have anything about such a specific problem, not that I have found anyway.
DeleteI like beetroot and never thought about snacking on it - good idea - but I'm afraid other pickles are my room 101! There's not a lot I don't like but . . . :-)
Our consultant said about the bunch of flowers thing too. I get it and there's no way I'm giving up, I just feel very despondent about it really. I suppose if this blog is to be of any help to me or to anyone else, I need to be honest!
I'm a bit concerned about cutting out an A because of women and calcium, especially at my age. Also, cheese isn't the problem. I grate it and keep it frozen, just weighing out what I need, when I need it.
I'm just really cross that I should so lack self control in such a specific situation and really that's what it is, sheer lack of control. No one makes be scoff in the way I do there. Very frustrating.
Thanks so much for taking the time to help. Lyn. Much appreciated.
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Hi Joy,
ReplyDeleteDo you follow The Daily Diary of a Winning Loser? The author is a lovely guy who has lots of experience in the area of emotional eating and strategies for coping. I haven't read his stuff recently but I know he blogs every day about his coping mechanisms.
I'd also like to say that you have had a tremendous emotional stressor this year please don't beat yourself up about this understandable blip in what has been an amazingly consistent trajectory.
Big hug. Lots of people care about you.
Heloise XXX
Big hug
No, I don't. Thanks very much, I will google it. Much appreciated.
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I really do get where you're coming from Joy, I recognise your dilemmas. Hang in there, and another old, very true SW saying is forgive yourself. It's hard but we can and should. I read your other blog, you certainly have a busy life by the sound of it. I'm trying to write, I joined a U3A creative writing group which I love. When I'm writing I can't eat, sticky paws! Can you write at Dad's or would you feel you were not giving him your full attention? At home you sound as though you're on it. Be very pleased with yourself about that. At Dad's halve your wine and top it up with soda or red with slimline tonic tastes like mulled wine! I must say his cupboards sound like all my downfalls too. x
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DeleteI've just sent him a message asking of some weekends he'd like to come here. RThat would be a way round, I think.
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And good luck with the writing. What sort of thing do you write?
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Are you sure that your problem relates solely to what you're eating. At the time you were reporting regular losses you were swimming most days and had lots of (extra) very physical activity at your allotment,both of which seem to have taken a back seat in your life. I hope I haven't offended you but it may be something to consider - that you need to reintroduce that level of physical activity in your daily life.
ReplyDeleteYou have a good point and one I hadn't really considered. I'll give this a good ponder, thanks very much.
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I'm sorry that I missed this post, realising that I'd done so when I read today's post (Thursday) and gathered from it that you'd aired a few problems/struggles. Now I've read it, and also the so.utions offered, so there's probably little to add. Nevertheless, I hope life becomes a little easier, a little calmer and more manageable. I find that any kind of stress shatters my resolve to eat healthily and on plan. I feel your pain, but you can do it, Joy; you've proved that already. X
ReplyDeleteThat's so encouraging and so kind, thanks very much. xxx
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